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Self Talk

Sometimes it’s hard to believe in yourself.

Believing in myself is something I have struggled with since…forever. It’s not like I didn’t have the mom who told me “You can be anything!” I just never believed her. In the past, especially as a teenager, I clung onto the negative. I clung onto the words of the people who told me “No” or made me feel silly for asking questions. I did this for a long time, even into college. However, while in high school I was given a tool by my first counselor that would help me eventually overcome this. She told me about how children hear the negative and remember the negative for more than the positive. I’ve thought about this again and again and still think about it today. It reminds me to not cling to those negative words.

As life goes, however, I sometimes still fail at doing so.

Even with my newly discovered self have those days where I doubt myself and hear only the negative things people say. Of course this is normal. As the Tao says, sometimes we’re up and sometimes we’re down, but I’d like to make these days far and few between. In my opinion they still show up too often.

I’m going somewhere with this. Really.

Well I’ve noticed that even with all of my positivity (which is apparently not a word?) I’m still very very bad at self talk. You know, those conversations you have with yourself. For me they usually end up like this: “You’re not good enough. No matter what you do it’s never enough. You’re ugly. You’ll never accomplish any of your goals. What makes you think you can do that?” and it goes on…. Pretty bad…I know. But I’m aware that it’s terrible. Would you ever say this to anyone else? If you would, you’re not a very nice person, but most people wouldn’t. So why say these things about yourself?

I started thinking about it a while back and thought, “Maybe I’ve heard it so much from people that I started to believe it.” That makes sense. It’s does happen, but that’s not why I say these things to myself because nobody has ever said those things to me before. No one but me. So where does it come from? This is something I explored with my last counselor and we came to the conclusion that I’m somewhat a perfectionist and I hate failure. So, here how that works for me. I want to be the best at something but if there is someone better than me instead of working to reach the same level I give up before I can fail. So many time I’ve given up something because of the possibility of failing. That’s the short version of that.

Recently I’ve come upon a new source of confidence. My black belt.

Never in my life have a completed a long term goal. Ever. I’m not kidding. Whether it be related to school, riding, writing or fitness I’ve never reached the long term goals I set for myself. I’ve always wanted a black belt in something (I mean who doesn’t?). It shows your dedication, determination, strength, and discipline in that specific art. Even when I was a brown belt in Kung Fu I still had those thoughts that I would never be a black belt. I told myself I didn’t deserve it and reminded myself I’ve never finished anything that I’ve started. Then I got my black belt.

What do you know…I did it. I finally completed a long term goal.

“How long are you gonna live your life thinking everybody else is better than you?”

-Kimi ni Todoke

It’s not just completing the goal that gave me more confidence. You see, I also compare myself to literally everybody. When I go to the gym to workout I notice the women who are prettier, stronger, and more athletic than I am. I do the same thing when I go to a yoga class. The same thing at school. I especially did this with one of my best friends. I constantly put her on a pedestal. She’s one of the most amazing people I know, I still believe this. I feel like she’s perfect and can do anything. One thing I looked up to is her black belt. How cool! I always thought that. Now I have one too. Not only did obtain a goal (finally!) but I’ve done something that my best friend has done. This doesn’t sound like a deal but it really is. The fact that I’ve accomplished even one thing that she has accomplished makes me feel like I can do anything.

Anyway, I’m writing this on a not so great day. It’s not that my day was bad, it wasn’t, but emotionally, internally, It’s not a very good day. Especially for my self talk. So I’m writing this almost like letter to myself. I’m writing this to remind myself that I’m capable of doing anything. I can achieve my goals and I know this because I’ve done it. I am capable of finally getting the abs I’ve wanted! I can get A’s in all my classes. I can do the splits! (which I actually did for the first time today!)

It’s truly amazing the power of the brain. Believe in yourself and you can accomplish anything. Just remember, having others believe in you is always nice but you must believe in yourself.

I’ll end it with one of my favorite quotes (actually from My Little Pony but it’s perfect):

“No matter how many times others tell you you’re great, all the praise in the world means nothing if you don’t feel it inside. Sometimes to feel good about yourself, you gotta let go of the past. That way, when the time comes to let your greatness fly, you’ll be able to light up the whole sky.”




Black is the New White


Cheesy title, I know. I’ve written in my last few posts that I’ve been in a slump lately, having no motivation and just feeling a little down in general. Well after yesterday, August 13, 2016, I feel as if I’ve found what I’ve been needing.

About three years ago my Kung Fu brothers and I started Shaolin Kung Fu. Yesterday we all tested to first black. It was a great test, probably our best ever! It’s an amazing feeling to get your black belt after three years of training, dedication, hard work and eating bitter. However, after going on this long journey to black I’ve learned that black is just the beginning. It’s now that the really hard work starts and I have to be more dedicated than ever. With black comes a whole new load of responsibilities. Thanks to the many friends and teachers we’ve made it this far and have so much more to go.

Therefore the Master
acts without doing anything
and teaches without saying anything.
Things arise and she lets them come;
things disappear and she lets them go.
She has but doesn’t possess,
acts but doesn’t expect.
When her work is done, she forgets it.
That is why it lasts forever.


I’m excited to start this brand new journey and it’s just what I’ve been needing. I’ve really struggled with confidence in every aspect but also in my martial arts, it was in this test that I finally saw a little more confidence come out and translate into my martial arts. I’m excited to keep learning and get better.

Stay tuned!!

What I Seek

Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.


I’ve decided to write a little more about why I’m trying to blog more and what kind of journey I’m going on exactly. To start I’ll tell you more about myself, my life, and my dreams. For starters, I don’t have an especially sad story, but I’ve been through my own share of personal struggles and everything is relative.

Growing up I’ve always been very shy, and self-conscious. I harbored a lot of self hate and even now I constantly compare myself to those around me. This has stopped from doing many things I’ve wanted to do. In high school I was depressed and saw a counselor for a few years (till I left for college). It was a great help and I loved my counselor but I was still very young and at the time I didn’t realize that going to a counselor wasn’t going to fix all my problems.

In college I was still depressed. I hardly had any friends, was alone a lot and just struggled with the image I had of myself. I literally hated who I was. So, I started to see another counselor my third year of college. She was also amazing. She helped me through a few tough break ups but she also jump started my interest in Taoism. I started to learn that I could see a counselor and it would help but it could only help so much. I had to also help myself. You see your counselor maybe once or twice a week, well, what about all the days in between? That’s up to you. Finally, I realized this and started to work on myself through counseling and on my own.

My biggest goal was to be healthy and balanced. I needed to find a way to be emotionally healthy, mentally healthy, physically healthy, and socially healthy. At the times I was completely out of balance. I worked out all the time so I was physically healthy but in every other aspect I was lacking and with the help of my counselor I discovered a lot of this was due to the self hate and the amount of pressure I put on myself. This wasn’t about other people not liking me and not wanting to be my friend! No. This was about me not liking myself and believing I wasn’t good enough for anyone or to do anything worth while.

Well, after a few years of seeing my counselor she told me one day, with tears in her eyes, that I didn’t need her anymore. That’s not to say I was completely fixed, one hundred percent balanced or anything like that. It meant I was in a much better place than I was and I had the tools and drive to better myself on my own.13652932_10210056074988262_1239694355102842871_o

Today, I have more friends than I’ve ever had. I actually think I’m pretty cool and I have a lot more confidence. My journey is about the woman I am and the woman I want to be. I am by no means perfect. I’m far, far, far from perfect. I still struggle occasionally with body image, motivation, and self-love, but I’ve come a long way. I will never be perfect but I know I can be better. I still have ups and downs but they are far and few between, and less dramatic. These good and bad moments with myself are always going to happen because that’s what balance is. For something to be good something has to be bad. All I want is balance and happiness.

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I often think about the quote “We don’t see things as they are; we seem them as we are.” -Talmund/Anaïs Nin. Well, if this is true then I’m awesome, because the people I surround myself with are incredible people. These are just a few of the great friends I have! Really words can’t describe what my friends mean to me. All of them. Including the ones I don’t see or talk to much. I just know some really really amazing, beautiful people.

The friends I’ve made in the last year are all a part of my journey. This may be biased on my part but sometimes I feel like they are more relevant to my life than many previous friends that I’ve had, but maybe these friends a result of my journey. I’ve changed a lot and the people I hang out with have changed. By this I mean, I really didn’t have many friends before. I was always shy, depressed, self conscious etc. You know the usual. Now, I’m completely different. I love my life and my friends are a part of what make it so amazing.

“Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.”


I do see myself in these people but I also see room for improvement, on my part. These people are driven, beautiful, inspiring, smart, and all of the other positive adjective you could use to describe these people, but it shows me where I still lack. My journey will never be over, not until I’m dead. So for now I use every moment, such as the night in this picture, to learn more about myself, about people, and how I can improve. I can’t wait! ❤


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Land of the Midnight Sun

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This summer I took a trip to Alaska to visit my Aunt and Uncle. What a great time! We started the trip off with some kayaking near Denali, rafting in Talkeetna and a stay in their beautiful cabin! What a beautiful state, I didn’t want to leave. I think the only reason I came back was because I missed my dogs so much.

Anyway, I feel like Alaska really spoke to me. Something about the place made me slow down, calm down, and feel a little more at peace. I’m sure the nature played a huge part in that! Seriously though, instead of letting road rage take over and the need to get places faster, I felt myself relaxed and often found myself going below the speed limit. There is so much you can miss if you’re in a hurry. Alaska really has it all. The mountains, the ocean, the wildlife, it’s incredible!

Before going to Alaska I finally felt like I figured out what I want to do with my life. In this aspect, Alaska shook me up a little. I came back to good ole’ Tennessee feeling a little lost (again!) and also kind of dejected. Tennessee is beautiful but it’s nothing like Alaska. Maybe it’s because everything is so new to me but I suddenly didn’t want to go hiking with my dogs or anything. My excuse is always “It’s too hot and too humid!” How lame. I still feel a little “lost”. I’m not sure what I want to do and everything I think of I’m not sure how to get it done. I definitely need a way to find my motivation but I’m so worried about the future. I’m slipping a little out of the present here, which definitely explains my sadness, and thinking about the what ifs. What if I end up in a job I hate? What if I spend my whole life working with no time for my martial arts, my dogs, hiking, writing, etc? If that happens then I lose my identity. Who would I be? I want to find a way to be myself and do the things I love while still being able to pay the bills.

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The Tao Te Ching teaches not to dwell in the past or future and I definitely agree, but planning should still be considered. Somehow I have to find a way back onto the path. I need to get out of my head and experience the present time. I will find a way to do it, even if it takes some time. Sometimes we’re up and sometimes we’re down. It’s all about balance. I must stay positive, work hard and I’m sure everything will come together. I hope, however, the  path leads me west to those incredible mountains and breathtaking scenery.

“The world is sacred.
It can’t be improved.
If you tamper with it, you’ll ruin it.
If you treat it like an object, you’ll lose it.

So sometimes ahead and sometimes behind,
sometimes hot and sometimes cold,
sometimes strong and sometimes weak,
sometimes on top of it, sometimes under.

So don’t strain, spend too much, be smug”

For more pictures from Alaska check out my Instagram!!!

I’m Back

Wow! I haven’t written since last year! I sort of ran out of things to write! I say that but really I was just going on my own journey, discovering who I am and just really living it up. I’ve changed a lot since the beginning of 2016 and I must say I love who I have become. Recently I’ve looked back at the person I was and see how much I didn’t like that person. Now I love who I am! ❤ Everyday I work to make myself even better!

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I’ll post a few pictures but I have a lot to say, so for now think of it as a sneak peak. I’ll be posting every other day hopefully but at least once a week. Most of these posts will be about my amazing summer, my dogs and more about my journey. Hope you continued to read! I’m excited to write again.

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